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16 Friday Dec 2011
Posted holidays, sensory processing disorder, spd, spd tactics, zin
Ahhh…the holidays. We’ve been playing the Pandora Christmas station in the house and I keep hearing “It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year.” It’s supposed to be right? I usually love Advent. I usually love decorating the tree, baking cookies, looking at lights, seeing The Nutcracker with A, giving gifts, going to the Christmas Eve candlelight service. December is usually really great and filled with traditions and activities that we all love. But, I’m going to be honest: Christmas isn’t even here yet and I’m ready for it to be over.
For starters, the past 2 months have seemed non-stop. Halloween…Thanksgiving…now Christmas. I’m exhausted. School has been busy. The routine of homework, packing lunches, getting to school on time, picking up the kids on time, play dates and shuttling everyone to activities is wearing me down. My RA has been flaring since I’m tired and sometimes stressed. Oh…and we have a kid with SPD.
I guess that technically this isn’t the first Christmas we have had a child with SPD. It is, however, the first year that we have been aware of it and noticed what is going on in his little body. It’s also, and this is the bigger deal, the first year that HE has been aware that something is going on at Christmas. And it’s been hard.
We were prepared at Halloween. We avoided the Halloween parade and traded trick-or-treating for an activity that he loved (staying home in a quiet house and passing out candy). It was great. Not overwhelming for him at all.
Thanksgiving was good, too. We were worried since we were at my parents and there were cousins, aunts, uncles, and Thanksgiving day guests everywhere. But, he did great in the extra space and thrived with everyone giving him focused attention and some structure. He loved wrestling with uncles and playing with Grampy’s marble run with his cousins and hanging out in a tent when it all got to be too much for him. For all our worrying, it turned out to be a really fun, relaxing week.
And then December came. I have to be honest again: I wasn’t prepared. We thought that all the fun activities would be exciting for him and that he would get a kick out of the tree and gingerbread houses and cookies and Santa and the Advent candles and everything else we do. The other two kids love it so why shouldn’t he? What I didn’t stop and think about is that all that is akin to overload for an SPD kid. From the night we put the tree up he has been in high gear. And since we are busy and exhausted, it’s been hard for us to stop and focus on what he needs. His sensory diet has essentially gone out the window and been replaced with noise and lights and sugar. And right now I’m feeling pretty bad about it. I mean, when I really stop and think about it, it makes sense that his “engine” (as his OT calls his nervous system) has been revved nonstop. Of course all the activities, errands, and decorations are overwhelming for him. Of course he sees the excitement that his brother and sister have (and know how to regulate) and is confused by it. Of course he doesn’t know how to handle all this extra input any other way than bouncing, yelling, and running away from us as soon as he gets a chance.
On our way to OT today, after running some errands (one of which involved chasing him down as he bolted out of a bookstore toward the parking lot) I kept thinking how much he really needed his “super-hero” class today. And he did. I could tell – more than any other time we have gone – that it was exactly where he needed to be. He was so full of ideas of what he needed (which he knows better than we do). So HAPPY. He spun in circles in the boat swing for 5-minutes straight, laughing the whole time. He climbed and jumped and pulled and then finally settled down to cutting and gluing and turned out a paper candy cane he was so proud of. Even though my mind was spinning thinking about the cookies I had to finish baking for school, it was so great to really stop and watch him be at peace for maybe the first time in a couple weeks. And a shout out to Karen, our amazing OT, who took time to talk to me about what he is experiencing and how we can help him. She’s great. Really great.
So, Z, I’m sorry. I’m sorry that my ideas of what the holidays should be have taken priority over what you need. I’m sorry that I have let myself get so busy and tired that I haven’t had time to stop and be with you and help you calm your engine. I’m sorry that I didn’t think about how overwhelming Christmas would be for you. I promise that for the next 9 days we’ll take it easy. I promise we’ll work on your sensory diet, take naps when we need them, do heavy and tactile work, and not run around doing endless errands or activities. I promise that while A and J are home on break we won’t watch TV constantly, but we’ll ride bikes, take walks, and find fun games to play that keep your nervous system organized. I promise that Christmas morning will be slow and relaxed, that we will make present opening last a long time and take lots of time to eat and play and laugh. I promise that we are all going to do everything we can to make the holiday season a good one for everyone in the family. I promise that we will try to make the first Christmas you understand a really great one for you.
Z‘s amazing candy cane. I think it’s the first piece of art he hung on the fridge. And boy was he proud!
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We just got back from a week in Medford with family. Such. A. Great. Week. The best, really. We spent …
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Posted holidays, random thingsin
Valentine’s Day at school these days is all about the candy and gifts. I felt like an old lady when I caught myself saying, “I remember when I was a kid. We only exchanged little cards.” My kids came home from school on Monday, bags overflowing with candy and gum and straight sugar (disguised as Fun Dip). J also got these, which will forever be known as The Most Random Gifts Ever:
Look! They can also be used as floppy disc labels! (What?)
Not that we’re ungrateful or anything. The kids are nothing if not creative so I’m sure a use will be found for them.
But still. Random.
24 Friday Dec 2010
now listening to: o come, o come emmanuel by sixpence none the richer via rhapsody